15 ways your job is destroying your marriage

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15 ways your job is destroying your marriage

Your job can easily start to affect your personal life.

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Slide 1 of 16: Your job can easily start to affect your personal life.

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Putting work priorities ahead of your relationship

Slide 5 of 16: If you literally have nothing to talk about with your spouse other than work, then this is a bad sign. "If you have trouble compartmentalizing work and personal life, you likely will go into discussions about people and projects without even realizing," Taylor says. It's a habit that you have to make a conscious effort to kick.

Slide 2 of 16: If you find yourself opting out of activities you would normally engage in with your spouse, such as going to a movie, visiting friends or just enjoying time together, you could be placing undue pressure on the relationship, Taylor says.

If you find yourself opting out of activities you would normally engage in with your spouse, such as going to a movie, visiting friends or just enjoying time together, you could be placing undue pressure on the relationship, Taylor says.

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Being too tired from work to spend time with your spouse

Slide 6 of 16: This can create a slow build-up of resentment from your spouse and create the impression you are choosing your work intentionally over your personal commitments, says Kerr.

Slide 3 of 16: If work is sucking all of your energy out of you, your partner will be affected and take note.

If work is sucking all of your energy out of you, your partner will be affected and take note.

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Constantly turning to your spouse as your career therapist

Slide 7 of 16: If your spouse feels that they're taking the brunt of your office worries, then they may withdraw and seem unusually quiet, not wanting to add to the drama, Taylor says. "Or, they may feel that sharing their own struggles is futile, because the topic will ultimately bounce back to your office dilemmas."

Slide 4 of 16: If you find yourself constantly seeking advice from your spouse on your next "move" at work, you could be hurting your marriage, Taylor says.

If you find yourself constantly seeking advice from your spouse on your next "move" at work, you could be hurting your marriage, Taylor says.

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Consuming your life and all your conversations

Slide 8 of 16: If your spouse if starting to resent your work, then they may not always open up about it because they want to be supportive of you - but the resentment might manifest itself in other areas, such as being less patient or more irritable, Kerr says.  

If you literally have nothing to talk about with your spouse other than work, then this is a bad sign. "If you have trouble compartmentalizing work and personal life, you likely will go into discussions about people and projects without even realizing," Taylor says. It's a habit that you have to make a conscious effort to kick.

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Arriving late to important personal events or frequently cancel because of work

Slide 9 of 16: If you're beginning to feel that your mind is in some far-off place, then your spouse probably detects it. "If you're preoccupied with work once you get home, or even into the weekend, you may feel that you need to keep to yourself," says Taylor. "You may deprive yourself of normal social activities with your partner."

This can create a slow build-up of resentment from your spouse and create the impression you are choosing your work intentionally over your personal commitments, says Kerr.

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Preventing your spouse from talking about their day

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If your spouse feels that they're taking the brunt of your office worries, then they may withdraw and seem unusually quiet, not wanting to add to the drama, Taylor says. "Or, they may feel that sharing their own struggles is futile, because the topic will ultimately bounce back to your office dilemmas."

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Having less patience with your spouse, and vice versa

Slide 10 of 16: If you are carrying home stress with you from the office, then you may become more irritable and end up taking it out on your partner in totally unrelated areas, Kerr says.

If your spouse if starting to resent your work, then they may not always open up about it because they want to be supportive of you - but the resentment might manifest itself in other areas, such as being less patient or more irritable, Kerr says.

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Not having the energy to socialize

Slide 11 of 16: If there's some sort of change to your work life - maybe a new role, a new boss, a new salary - and you're suddenly fighting with your spouse about things you never argued about before, it's probably no coincidence.

If you're beginning to feel that your mind is in some far-off place, then your spouse probably detects it. "If you're preoccupied with work once you get home, or even into the weekend, you may feel that you need to keep to yourself," says Taylor. "You may deprive yourself of normal social activities with your partner."

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Arguing more with your spouse

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If you are carrying home stress with you from the office, then you may become more irritable and end up taking it out on your partner in totally unrelated areas, Kerr says.

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Arguing about new things

Slide 13 of 16: A spouse who's sick of hearing about you "feeling trapped" at work or that you were admonished again might offer less eye contact or keep busy with another activity as you speak to mitigate the stress, says Taylor.

If there's some sort of change to your work life - maybe a new role, a new boss, a new salary - and you're suddenly fighting with your spouse about things you never argued about before, it's probably no coincidence.

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Spending little time with your spouse because you're always busy with work

Slide 14 of 16: Are you getting up two hours earlier each morning so you can come home earlier at night? Are you giving up personal hobbies or exercise in order to achieve your personal and work goals? This may eventually cause you to break.

If you're staying at the office later at night, going in on weekends more frequently, or bringing work home with you more and more, then these things will likely cut into the personal time that you'd normally spend with your partner. And, chances are, this will strain the relationship.

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Noticing he or she doesn't listen to you when you speak anymore

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A spouse who's sick of hearing about you "feeling trapped" at work or that you were admonished again might offer less eye contact or keep busy with another activity as you speak to mitigate the stress, says Taylor.

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Starting to making more sacrifices to make everyone happy

Slide 15 of 16: If you look forward to the end of the weekend or even stay an extra day away on your business trip because you realize it's easier or less stressful to be at work than to be at home, you've got a problem on your hands.

Are you getting up two hours earlier each morning so you can come home earlier at night? Are you giving up personal hobbies or exercise in order to achieve your personal and work goals? This may eventually cause you to break.

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Realizing that you are happier at work than you are at home, and feel more engaged with your work colleagues than with your spouse

Slide 16 of 16: If your partner says things like "I wonder if the children will recognize you when you're back from this trip?" then it may be a sign that they're fed up.

If you look forward to the end of the weekend or even stay an extra day away on your business trip because you realize it's easier or less stressful to be at work than to be at home, you've got a problem on your hands.

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Causing your spouse to use sarcasm to convey their true feelings

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